STRIKE BACK AT PORN

Men you need to read this and commit to your spouses the truth about your private addiction before it becomes an relationship breaker.

I just read an article in the Promise Keepers Magazine called "SEVEN". This article is titled "Strike Back At Porn" by Lisa Hall-Wilson and Emily Taylor. (taken from Seven magazine May-June edition)

Men  you need to read this and commit to your spouses the truth about your private addiction before it becomes an relationship breaker.

Porn has always been a private addiction. Secretly indulged in and now easier t access than ever before, many men convince themselves that they're not hurting anyone. This fallacy can only survive for so long. We know. Our men confessed to eight and 10-year porn addictions respectively. Our relationships survived, but both of us were ready to walk away at different points. Here are the key questions men are (or should be) asking about how porn affects their relationship with their wives or fiances.

My porn addiction has nothing to do with her. Why do I need to tell her?

When a man views porn, his woman thinks its her fault, while her man argues that it has nothing to do with her. Men, your porn addiction has everything to do with your wife, and your wife needs to understand that this addiction really , doesn't have anything to do with her.

Let us explain.
When a woman learns that her man is involved with or addicted to porn, it cuts to the very core of her self-confidence because she assumes you've made this choice due to her lack. Every woman
knows she can't compete with the Photos hop- and surgically-enhanced women who pose for porn.

Your wife clings to the belief that you are the one man on Earth who finds her irresistible. In her mind, if you're looking at porn it's inevitable that you've compared her to them and she falls short. She thinks you're choosing porn because she isn't good enough.

In a guy's mind, viewing porn doesn't have anything to do with her (usually), but it may be a very long time before she believes that.

However, your porn addiction has everything to do with your relationship with her. This is not a victimless sin. No marriage or other close relationship will survive the lies, secrecy, guilt and
self-loathing that a porn addiction brings. Many women feel ignored and abandoned, get yelled at for no reason and are lonely. They're living with one foot out the door emotionally.

Don't make excuses, it doesn't matter how much or how little you're involved with porn. Whatever you're into, whether websites, catalogues, magazines, movies or massage parlours and strip clubs, she will find out eventually. It is better to come clean. And that confession brings freedom. You need to apologize and she needs to forgive (eventually) so that the relationship can move on without the secrets.

Continued tomorrow