It's wondrous what a hug can do.
A hug can cheer you when you're blue.
A hug can soothe a small child's pain,
And bring a rainbow after rain.
The hug, there's just no doubt about it---
We scarcely could survive without it!
A hug delights and warms and charms,
It must be why God Gave us arms.
Hugs are great for fathers and mothers,
Sweet for sisters, swell for brothers;
And chances are your favorite aunts
Love them more than potted plants.
Kittens crave them, puppies love them;
Heads of states are not above them.
A hug can break the language barrier,
And make travel so much merrier.
No need to fret about your store of 'em;
The more you give, the more there's more of em.
So stretch those arms without delay
And give someone a hug today!!!!
About Me
- Steve
- One who has a great love for his Wife and children. I value the time we share and I am so blessed to have her.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
I do not understand
I do not understand why it is so easy to get so worked up over something. There is a stirring in my heart that I do not like and I want it gone.
I am sitting here typing and re-typing felling frustrated and actually I can fee the anger rising up in me. I want this feeling to go away, because it is not a good feeling.
Jesus I give this to you , you are in control and not me. I turn my life to you God. Take control, remove these feelings that were rising up in me. Give me peace Jesus.
I commit my day and my life to you Lord. Thank you Jesus
You can give your heart and life to Jesus to take control of what issues you may have. Just give it to Him.
Now that is out of the way I want to tell everyone who reads this. Have a great day and bodacious day.
I am sitting here typing and re-typing felling frustrated and actually I can fee the anger rising up in me. I want this feeling to go away, because it is not a good feeling.
Jesus I give this to you , you are in control and not me. I turn my life to you God. Take control, remove these feelings that were rising up in me. Give me peace Jesus.
I commit my day and my life to you Lord. Thank you Jesus
You can give your heart and life to Jesus to take control of what issues you may have. Just give it to Him.
Now that is out of the way I want to tell everyone who reads this. Have a great day and bodacious day.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Look at the birds of the air . . . . Consider the lilies of the field . . .
Look at the birds of the air . . . . Consider the lilies of the field . . . —Matthew 6:26, 28
This scripture is inspiring if you look at all the things around us and how they began. Baby birds, new flowers wow.
When you wake up in the morning, and you hear the birds chirping and the sun shinning what do you think. When you look around you and you see all the beauty God has created it makes you wonder think that you are truly blessed to live in such a wonderful world.
It makes me think of a song that was sung by Louis Armstrong What a Wonderful world.
Keep in mind that we all need to look at life positively and keep our relationship with Jesus Christ in the for front.
If you want to be of use to God, maintain the proper relationship with Jesus Christ by staying focused on Him, and He will make use of you every minute you live— yet you will be unaware, on the conscious level of your life, that you are being used of Him.
God Bless you this wonderful God given day!!
This scripture is inspiring if you look at all the things around us and how they began. Baby birds, new flowers wow.
When you wake up in the morning, and you hear the birds chirping and the sun shinning what do you think. When you look around you and you see all the beauty God has created it makes you wonder think that you are truly blessed to live in such a wonderful world.
It makes me think of a song that was sung by Louis Armstrong What a Wonderful world.
Keep in mind that we all need to look at life positively and keep our relationship with Jesus Christ in the for front.
If you want to be of use to God, maintain the proper relationship with Jesus Christ by staying focused on Him, and He will make use of you every minute you live— yet you will be unaware, on the conscious level of your life, that you are being used of Him.
God Bless you this wonderful God given day!!
Monday, May 17, 2010
STRIKE BACK AT PORN - PART 3
This is Part 3 of the article. Keep on reading it will help you to understand the effects of porn! {This article is titled "Strike Back At Porn" by Lisa Hall-Wilson and Emily Taylor. (taken from Seven magazine May-June edition)}
I know I've hurt her, but I can't beat this without her.
What do I do now?
She'll question what you say, where you go, monitor where your eyes wander. She believed all your lies before and now feels like the world's biggest fool. Her lack of trust is going to sting. You might want to push her to trust you again and you might feel insulted when she says she can't, but your words have no credibility right now. Help her learn to trust you again. Show her that things are going to be different. Let your actions demonstrate your sincere desire to change and rebuild the relationship.
She doesn't have to trust you initially to be your biggest ally, though that's hard to imagine. She does love you and wants you to overcome this. Hold on to that for now.
Install an Internet filter with a password on the computer (but don't forget the iPhone, blackberry, PSP, cell phone, etc). Let her set the filter parameters. Don't argue when the filter blocks things that you see nothing wrong with-that's likely what got you into trouble in the first place. Do you need to cancel the satellite or cable or install a filter there too?
Don't flirt with it. Determine what triggers you to seek porn out. Is it boredom? Stress? Have a plan for those situations. Go to bed with your spouse and get up when she does. If videos and magazines are a temptation, stop shopping where they're sold.
If you doubt you're strong enough in the beginning to keep from secretly buying new porn after destroying the old, give her access to all the bank accounts and credit card records, show her all your receipts. All this sound like a hassle? Isn't the inconvenience worth it to break your addiction and have her love, trust and respect back?
But your action plan has to be more than just avoidance of the old behaviours that got you into trouble. You need to fill the void (time, thoughts and energy) with something positive.
Dive into God's Word. Get involved in church. Make reading Scripture a part of your daily routine-no exceptions. Do devotions and pray with her, if she's willing. Ask God for His forgiveness and His help in overcoming your sin.
Find a male accountability partner who isn't afraid to ask the tough questions and who can handle hearing honest answers. (yes, that means telling someone else.) You need a brother-in- arms for this one. Your wife is your biggest ally, but she can't be your accountability partner. She's not ready to hear about every stray thought or casual glance.
You do, however, need to tell her if you're struggling in a given situation. Don't assume she knows. She's probably oblivious to the bouncing cleavage and short skirts that you can't help but notice. Your openness will help her understand that this is a daily struggle with malls, bikini-clad beaches and billboards, not just with websites and dirty magazines. Because she loves you, she'll try to be sensitive to that once she knows.
It might take her awhile to tell you, but you'll earn her respect by working hard to beat this, for being proactive in wanting to change and for never giving up. Being a warrior with tarnished, blood- stained armour doesn't mean you've lost. It means you've been in a fierce fight that you're determined to win. One day you'll
be her hero again.
Remember you're not alone. Statistically, there are several others in your church struggling with this same issue. Some days you're going to feel like giving up, but hang in there for the long haul. King David was a sinner who screwed up big, but because he was repentant and turned away from his sins he is called a man after God's own heart.
Lisa Hal/-Wilson is a freelance writer who lives
with her husband and three children in London,
Ontario. Emily Taylor is a freelance writer and
editor from Chatham-Kent, Ontario. She and
her fiance have their wedding planned for
September 2010.
I know I've hurt her, but I can't beat this without her.
What do I do now?
She'll question what you say, where you go, monitor where your eyes wander. She believed all your lies before and now feels like the world's biggest fool. Her lack of trust is going to sting. You might want to push her to trust you again and you might feel insulted when she says she can't, but your words have no credibility right now. Help her learn to trust you again. Show her that things are going to be different. Let your actions demonstrate your sincere desire to change and rebuild the relationship.
She doesn't have to trust you initially to be your biggest ally, though that's hard to imagine. She does love you and wants you to overcome this. Hold on to that for now.
Install an Internet filter with a password on the computer (but don't forget the iPhone, blackberry, PSP, cell phone, etc). Let her set the filter parameters. Don't argue when the filter blocks things that you see nothing wrong with-that's likely what got you into trouble in the first place. Do you need to cancel the satellite or cable or install a filter there too?
Don't flirt with it. Determine what triggers you to seek porn out. Is it boredom? Stress? Have a plan for those situations. Go to bed with your spouse and get up when she does. If videos and magazines are a temptation, stop shopping where they're sold.
If you doubt you're strong enough in the beginning to keep from secretly buying new porn after destroying the old, give her access to all the bank accounts and credit card records, show her all your receipts. All this sound like a hassle? Isn't the inconvenience worth it to break your addiction and have her love, trust and respect back?
But your action plan has to be more than just avoidance of the old behaviours that got you into trouble. You need to fill the void (time, thoughts and energy) with something positive.
Dive into God's Word. Get involved in church. Make reading Scripture a part of your daily routine-no exceptions. Do devotions and pray with her, if she's willing. Ask God for His forgiveness and His help in overcoming your sin.
Find a male accountability partner who isn't afraid to ask the tough questions and who can handle hearing honest answers. (yes, that means telling someone else.) You need a brother-in- arms for this one. Your wife is your biggest ally, but she can't be your accountability partner. She's not ready to hear about every stray thought or casual glance.
You do, however, need to tell her if you're struggling in a given situation. Don't assume she knows. She's probably oblivious to the bouncing cleavage and short skirts that you can't help but notice. Your openness will help her understand that this is a daily struggle with malls, bikini-clad beaches and billboards, not just with websites and dirty magazines. Because she loves you, she'll try to be sensitive to that once she knows.
It might take her awhile to tell you, but you'll earn her respect by working hard to beat this, for being proactive in wanting to change and for never giving up. Being a warrior with tarnished, blood- stained armour doesn't mean you've lost. It means you've been in a fierce fight that you're determined to win. One day you'll
be her hero again.
Remember you're not alone. Statistically, there are several others in your church struggling with this same issue. Some days you're going to feel like giving up, but hang in there for the long haul. King David was a sinner who screwed up big, but because he was repentant and turned away from his sins he is called a man after God's own heart.
Lisa Hal/-Wilson is a freelance writer who lives
with her husband and three children in London,
Ontario. Emily Taylor is a freelance writer and
editor from Chatham-Kent, Ontario. She and
her fiance have their wedding planned for
September 2010.
Friday, May 14, 2010
STRIKE BACK AT PORN - PART 2
This is Part 2 of the article. Keep on reading it will help you to understand the effects of porn! {This article is titled "Strike Back At Porn" by Lisa Hall-Wilson and Emily Taylor. (taken from Seven magazine May-June edition)}
I've decided that I need to confess my involvement. What's the best way to break it to her? What should I expect when I do?
Admitting your involvement with porn to the most important woman in your life without knowing how she'll react is tough. Reconciliation is never easy, but this is a positive first step.
First, you need to be focused on God. If your sole intention in confessing is to minimize the damage so she won't leave or to get clean because she's threatening to leave, you may be setting yourself up for failure. Becoming the man God wants you to be must be your priority-whether she stays or leaves.
When you decide to confess, don't hold anything back. She won't want an itemized list of web sites, but be specific and forthright. Women are like bullet-proof glass: They can stand major blows and keep on hugging, multiple successive blows will shatter them. You need to create a foundation of truth on which to rebuild.
Be honest. Be sincere. Be sensitive to the fact that she's hurting. We can't predict exactly how she'll react, but do more than listen-actually hear her. Be prepared for her to tell you that porn is cheating. We hear your protests: It's not like you slept with another woman or even formed an emotional attachment. You're missing the point! Choosing to focus your time, energy and desires on another woman, real or otherwise, equals adultery. Take the hit on this one.
Consider her reasons for feeling like you've cheated on her. You're spending time with porn that otherwise would have been hers. You're pouring out desire on porn that otherwise would have been spent on her. You're indulging in mental fantasies-imagining yourself in intimate situations and acting on those fantasies privately. Jesus said: "Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matt. 5:28).
When you come clean be sure to have a plan. Your credibility is already dirt, but if you continually relapse because you haven't got a plan to end this behaviour, she might leave. If you relapse once and don't share that you've fallen, the cycle of guilt and shame will begin again and you'll be right back where you started. And let us give you a heads up on this one: Part of the plan had better be quitting cold turkey and getting rid of any stashes you have hidden. Immediately.
I've decided that I need to confess my involvement. What's the best way to break it to her? What should I expect when I do?
Admitting your involvement with porn to the most important woman in your life without knowing how she'll react is tough. Reconciliation is never easy, but this is a positive first step.
First, you need to be focused on God. If your sole intention in confessing is to minimize the damage so she won't leave or to get clean because she's threatening to leave, you may be setting yourself up for failure. Becoming the man God wants you to be must be your priority-whether she stays or leaves.
When you decide to confess, don't hold anything back. She won't want an itemized list of web sites, but be specific and forthright. Women are like bullet-proof glass: They can stand major blows and keep on hugging, multiple successive blows will shatter them. You need to create a foundation of truth on which to rebuild.
Be honest. Be sincere. Be sensitive to the fact that she's hurting. We can't predict exactly how she'll react, but do more than listen-actually hear her. Be prepared for her to tell you that porn is cheating. We hear your protests: It's not like you slept with another woman or even formed an emotional attachment. You're missing the point! Choosing to focus your time, energy and desires on another woman, real or otherwise, equals adultery. Take the hit on this one.
Consider her reasons for feeling like you've cheated on her. You're spending time with porn that otherwise would have been hers. You're pouring out desire on porn that otherwise would have been spent on her. You're indulging in mental fantasies-imagining yourself in intimate situations and acting on those fantasies privately. Jesus said: "Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matt. 5:28).
When you come clean be sure to have a plan. Your credibility is already dirt, but if you continually relapse because you haven't got a plan to end this behaviour, she might leave. If you relapse once and don't share that you've fallen, the cycle of guilt and shame will begin again and you'll be right back where you started. And let us give you a heads up on this one: Part of the plan had better be quitting cold turkey and getting rid of any stashes you have hidden. Immediately.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
STRIKE BACK AT PORN
Men you need to read this and commit to your spouses the truth about your private addiction before it becomes an relationship breaker.
I just read an article in the Promise Keepers Magazine called "SEVEN". This article is titled "Strike Back At Porn" by Lisa Hall-Wilson and Emily Taylor. (taken from Seven magazine May-June edition)
Men you need to read this and commit to your spouses the truth about your private addiction before it becomes an relationship breaker.
Porn has always been a private addiction. Secretly indulged in and now easier t access than ever before, many men convince themselves that they're not hurting anyone. This fallacy can only survive for so long. We know. Our men confessed to eight and 10-year porn addictions respectively. Our relationships survived, but both of us were ready to walk away at different points. Here are the key questions men are (or should be) asking about how porn affects their relationship with their wives or fiances.
My porn addiction has nothing to do with her. Why do I need to tell her?
When a man views porn, his woman thinks its her fault, while her man argues that it has nothing to do with her. Men, your porn addiction has everything to do with your wife, and your wife needs to understand that this addiction really , doesn't have anything to do with her.
Let us explain.
When a woman learns that her man is involved with or addicted to porn, it cuts to the very core of her self-confidence because she assumes you've made this choice due to her lack. Every woman
knows she can't compete with the Photos hop- and surgically-enhanced women who pose for porn.
Your wife clings to the belief that you are the one man on Earth who finds her irresistible. In her mind, if you're looking at porn it's inevitable that you've compared her to them and she falls short. She thinks you're choosing porn because she isn't good enough.
In a guy's mind, viewing porn doesn't have anything to do with her (usually), but it may be a very long time before she believes that.
However, your porn addiction has everything to do with your relationship with her. This is not a victimless sin. No marriage or other close relationship will survive the lies, secrecy, guilt and
self-loathing that a porn addiction brings. Many women feel ignored and abandoned, get yelled at for no reason and are lonely. They're living with one foot out the door emotionally.
Don't make excuses, it doesn't matter how much or how little you're involved with porn. Whatever you're into, whether websites, catalogues, magazines, movies or massage parlours and strip clubs, she will find out eventually. It is better to come clean. And that confession brings freedom. You need to apologize and she needs to forgive (eventually) so that the relationship can move on without the secrets.
Continued tomorrow
I just read an article in the Promise Keepers Magazine called "SEVEN". This article is titled "Strike Back At Porn" by Lisa Hall-Wilson and Emily Taylor. (taken from Seven magazine May-June edition)
Men you need to read this and commit to your spouses the truth about your private addiction before it becomes an relationship breaker.
Porn has always been a private addiction. Secretly indulged in and now easier t access than ever before, many men convince themselves that they're not hurting anyone. This fallacy can only survive for so long. We know. Our men confessed to eight and 10-year porn addictions respectively. Our relationships survived, but both of us were ready to walk away at different points. Here are the key questions men are (or should be) asking about how porn affects their relationship with their wives or fiances.
My porn addiction has nothing to do with her. Why do I need to tell her?
When a man views porn, his woman thinks its her fault, while her man argues that it has nothing to do with her. Men, your porn addiction has everything to do with your wife, and your wife needs to understand that this addiction really , doesn't have anything to do with her.
Let us explain.
When a woman learns that her man is involved with or addicted to porn, it cuts to the very core of her self-confidence because she assumes you've made this choice due to her lack. Every woman
knows she can't compete with the Photos hop- and surgically-enhanced women who pose for porn.
Your wife clings to the belief that you are the one man on Earth who finds her irresistible. In her mind, if you're looking at porn it's inevitable that you've compared her to them and she falls short. She thinks you're choosing porn because she isn't good enough.
In a guy's mind, viewing porn doesn't have anything to do with her (usually), but it may be a very long time before she believes that.
However, your porn addiction has everything to do with your relationship with her. This is not a victimless sin. No marriage or other close relationship will survive the lies, secrecy, guilt and
self-loathing that a porn addiction brings. Many women feel ignored and abandoned, get yelled at for no reason and are lonely. They're living with one foot out the door emotionally.
Don't make excuses, it doesn't matter how much or how little you're involved with porn. Whatever you're into, whether websites, catalogues, magazines, movies or massage parlours and strip clubs, she will find out eventually. It is better to come clean. And that confession brings freedom. You need to apologize and she needs to forgive (eventually) so that the relationship can move on without the secrets.
Continued tomorrow
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Wonder
I am wondering if anyone reads my blog. If you do could you please comment?
how many times do you sit there and wonder
how many times do you think your alone
how many times do you wonder if you are loved
how many times do you just sit and watch paint dry
I don't wonder about much saving how my life would be without my Love. I cant even imagine what that would be like, so I don't bother.
I never am alone as I have a wonderful family to spend time with and to love
I don't have to worry about not being loved, as far as I am concerned everyone loves me!!
I don't like to watch paint dry, now watching grass grow is a total different game, wow the excitement!!!
OK so I am being silly today... Have a good day all
Steve
how many times do you sit there and wonder
how many times do you think your alone
how many times do you wonder if you are loved
how many times do you just sit and watch paint dry
I don't wonder about much saving how my life would be without my Love. I cant even imagine what that would be like, so I don't bother.
I never am alone as I have a wonderful family to spend time with and to love
I don't have to worry about not being loved, as far as I am concerned everyone loves me!!
I don't like to watch paint dry, now watching grass grow is a total different game, wow the excitement!!!
OK so I am being silly today... Have a good day all
Steve
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